Month: November 2023

Amanae bodywork works within a dimension where we can be aware of what our mind is doing without being totally trapped on that doing. We can be aware of the flux of our emotions and allow them to rise and flow through us without being tumbled by them, without feeling trapped inside them. We can be aware of the kind of thoughts our mind is having: it says this and then it says that.

Getting in touch with that dimension, the 4th dimension allows us to start to be clear, to feel in the flesh the difference between being in the mind, the thinking space and the clear aware space presence of being in the heart.

Stepping into this awareness can bring an enormous difference in vibration frequency and everyday performance that we can start to notice pretty soon.

Our ability to think clearly might get enhanced as compulsive and more than often, useless thinking gradually subsides.

We can experience aliveness and peace because we are not as much “Me & my problems” as we get a different understanding of our emotional, thought, and physical processes.

When we are more conscious within our hearts, into this open spaciousness; we can have a better understanding of the people around us and our physical environment that can lead us to make more aligned and careful decisions, keeping our focus and knowing what’s important at any moment.

We can enjoy life and live in the moment more often as we are not trapped in an overwhelming past or in an anxious future anymore, as we do when we are “Me & My Problems”.

In these circumstances we are possessed by thoughts, judgments, overwhelmed by memories, worry, anger, resentment or sadness. Every thought and emotion feel absolutely important and absolutely right: “THIS is how it is”. “Let me tell you how things are”.

The space of simple awareness and presence of the heart, is the opportunity to be fully open to ourselves and the aliveness of the flowing movements of life.

16 – 10 – 2023

There are four attitudes that come from rooted beliefs or convictions that create disconnection and separation.

These attitudes steal energy from our relationships and from us. They are leaks draining precious energy.

They are:

• Wanting / need to always make a good impression
• Wanting / need to always have the reason / be right / to be on top
• Wanting / need to please
• Wanting / need to fix

We might feel we can make good impressions by saying we have read a book we haven’t, pretend to be interested or know about something we don’t care at all in or saying yes when we know and every cell of our bodies feels we want to say no.

When we need to be right or be on top we might look for ways to find other people’s faults, weaknesses or mistakes. So, it is difficult to cooperate or connect with a person that needs to be wrong for us to feel right or feel good.

How difficult is it for me to be wrong, to not have the reason? Maybe I feel if people find out I am wrong I won’t be loved, appreciated, I might be judged. Maybe I won’t be the lead I suppose to be?

Some of us have been or are people pleasers. There’s this need in us to say YES to everything regardless of any feeling that says the contrary in us.

Some of us might feel we need to do everything for everyone, in this way even if they don’t love us, at least they are going to need us.

If I say no, they might not like me, love me anymore.

If we don’t do everything for everyone we can be completely alone.

Or the world would end.

As professional fixers some of us go into improvement projects instead of relationships.

Why am I always interested in someone that feels in need of improvement / help?

How would I feel if this wouldn’t be the case?

So, which one of these leaks is the one that for any reason you think is big in you?

Are you the one that always wants to make a good impression, or the one that is always right, or are you the one that always says yes and wants to please everyone? Or the professional fixer or saviour?

Fluent in all four?

Master in one?

Being able to see / be aware of a pattern is a huge first step for them to start to change.

They most probably develop during childhood as a way to cope or survive or we were taught or we learned this was the way to be. They were useful for a while and they are not anymore. And, they can be really detrimental to our well being.

All these voices are based on fear and survival.

Amanae is the space to discover the real inner voice and listen to it.

04 – 10 – 2023

Acknowledgment—seeing and being seen—is a deeply powerful experience. Research has found that having someone, sometimes a complete stranger, just sitting with us while we perform a painful task reduces the pain we experience compared to doing it alone. And if that someone is a calm adult, children can show reduced cortisol levels.

“Compassion is an act of witness and being fully present to another person—and helping that person understand that someone sees them, hears them, and knows who they are…” (Parker Palmer)

Humans are interdependent. We are shaped deeply by our environment. We are wired to connect. One of our greatest needs is to be SEEN, not for who we pretend to be but for who we truly are. Feeling seen helped us to believe in and recognize ourselves.

A fully present person being with us, even without giving any advice, can help to regulate our physiology, reduce stress, anxiety and make a positive impact on our life. Having this experience also, may allow us to be present and have more compassion towards ourselves later on.

Instead of having the typical response of harsh self-criticism when we make a mistake (that can just produce a sense of isolation and pain); we learn to connect with the pain, recognizing it before going into problem-solving mode.

We learn to see and feel that it is actually a common human experience, not something that isolates us from others or something that shouldn’t be felt or happened.

Some of us might worry that self-compassion would only encourage weakness, laziness, or letting ourselves off the hook for mistakes. This actually doesn’t seem to happen. Self-compassion in fact can improve performance as there’s no stressful painful emotions  stuck and energy flows freely within our own compassionate presence.

28 – 09 – 2023

The purpose of this bodywork is to be present with another human being in a non judgemental and open way, using touch and breathing so they can feel an inner sense of themselves.

Amanae emotional regulation breath work is a general hands on discipline that allows for a deep relaxation in the client that is receiving the work. The touching presence of the practitioner allows the person under their hands to listen to their inner selves from inside out. The practitioner facilitates a safe space for that person to be whoever they are at that moment.

When someone is really present with you, there’s something about that that you don’t feel alone with your deepest feelings. That’s really healing. That’s where the magic happens: when we are able to navigate difficult emotions, when we can have space for them they themselves leave us.

The kind of touch used , it’s a presence touch. A listening touch.
When you find yourself being touched in this way there’s a sense of “safety”, of being contained, that allows you to unfold, relax your muscles and often come in touch with parts of yourself that you were not familiar with or have forgotten about.

When we are born healthy and we come into this world we move from the top of our head to the tips of our toes with every breath we take and as we begin to be a little older as long as we feel safe, there’s going to be a movement within us that is natural and easy.
But if we don’t feel safe for any reason, we start to put ourselves away and we do that with our muscles. We just start to hold back and hold down and when we do that, it affects the diaphragm, our breathing muscle. And this means we start to make ourselves smaller than how we really are and we lose that natural ability, that natural flexibility we have in life, our natural resources to deal with our life situations.

The heart of this bodywork is remembering who you really are and out of that, you find more possibilities of how you live your life with freedom and at ease.

06 – 06 – 2023